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How easily affected are you by one persons opinion?

“There are 7.7 billion people in the world and the only persons opinion about your life that truly matters, is yours, so make it a good one” (Ali Swift 2021)As a published Author of two self-development books I have received many incredible 5 & 4 star reviews (aka opinions), especially for ‘My Wellness Toolbox’, they have made me dance on the ceiling, rubbed my ego like it’s never been rubbed before. Yet I have also received a few 3 & 2 star reviews (aka opinions) that, if I’m honest, made me feel a little flat at the time I read them, I wanted to reach out to the reviewers and understand their thoughts more. Ego deflated. People pleaser alert!!! Then...

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SATURDAY SHARE… YOUR TRUE EMOTIONS

  Learning that it is safe for me to feel my feelings has been life changing for me, especially in the last 18 months. My feelings and emotions are valid, even if others can’t handle them or don’t want to accept them. When I keep my uncomfortable emotions inside I only poison myself, when I allow them I release them… and that is better for me long term ❤️…all our emotions are valid! It’s why we were born with them 💫

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SATURDAY SHARE… A GOOD QUESTION

    Yesterday a very special lady, who is currently reading My Wellness Toolbox, asked “How did you manage to turn the news off completely?”… “How do you stay informed on key issues?” this led me to ask the question…Why do you watch the news? Does reading and watching the news keep you informed and enrich your life or does it feed your fears and leave you feeling worried or angry at the world? From an early age it was programmed into many us that newspapers and news programmes are the main source of information to keep us informed…We have been educated to actively keep up to date with current affairs. Even if it is affairs we have no control...

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TUESDAY TALKING TOOLS… LEARN SOMETHING NEW (AND MAKE A WISH)

In 2011 my boyfriend (now husband) and I were blessed to visit Varanasi, the holiest city in India. It has a very magical and spiritual vibe, especially when sitting on a rowing boat in the middle of the River Ganges to watch the sunset followed by a Ganga Aarti ceremony. At dusk the Ganga Aarti ceremony is performed by a number of priests, it is a light and flower festival and it happens every single day at the Hindu Temple on the River Ganges. The idea is to show gratitude and respect to the river and the Goddess Ganga, and ask for blessings.As part of the festival there is a ritual where you place a small lit candle inside a...

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FRIDAY FEELS LIKE… GETTING OUT IN NATURE

YOUR WELLNESS TOOLBOX 2021 DAY 232 / 365 FRIDAY FEELS LIKE… GETTING OUT IN NATURE Many scientific studies have proven (just Google it) that spending just 5 minutes in nature (they do say the greener the better) boosts your mood… and spending over 15 minutes can boost your overall well-being. If you are feeling anxious, stressed, brain foggy, overwhelmed or need some help boosting your mood today then go spend some time in nature. Let it work it’s magic on you. Yesterday I was on an emotional rollercoaster for a number of reasons, including an incident that happened on the beach, the day before, that could have blinded my 4YO (she is now absolutely fine). I was feeling apprehensive about going...

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